Are you Self Sabotaging?

“Destructive emotions are like dust on the gold of our intrinsic nature, and there is an innate and intrinsic goodness within.”

So many of us do it. Probably more than don’t. So many of us hold self sabotaging beliefs about ourselves that can impede our own progress, and peace in life. We may sabotage ourselves in areas of work, relationships, finances, self-care, completing tasks, among other ways. Until we become aware of our own self sabotaging patterns, we can glide through life feeling that we have no control over what is happening, our bad luck or fate, or why we can’t move forward as much as we would like. Do you often say ‘I can’t’, ‘it’s not possible’, ‘I have such bad luck’, ‘good things don’t happen to me’ or do you expect things to work out well for you? For success, health and abundance to flow your way?

Do you have great big plans, ideas, dreams or tasks that never seem to get done or realised? Wouldn’t it be better to get out of your own way? We may begin by first becoming aware of our own thoughts. Using a journal, you may take some time to answer the following questions:
Are you your own number one supporter?
Do you believe in yourself?
Are you confident?
Do you procrastinate a lot?
Do you think of yourself as a good person?
Do you feel deserving?
Do you feel capable of meeting all of your own needs?
Are you a perfectionist and this often gets in your way of completing tasks?
Do you set realistic goals and small tasks or mammoth tasks?

We must first understand and recognise it. Once recognised we may explore the root causes, before we can begin to break the cycle of self sabotage. This is coupled with self love work, as the more confident you are in yourself, the less you will accept your own excuses and self sabotaging behaviours.

Observe over the next few weeks, any limiting mindsets and habits you may have adopted, where these come from, who first told you that. Why do you think that? Journaling can assist in deepening awareness. What were the beliefs of those you grew up around? What were you told was not possible? How has that influenced who you have become today? What do you really believe and want? Begin to develop your own voice and aim to meet words with actions. Go small. When we aim big, we often achieve nothing as its too big, aim to make small little changes, one day at a time.